Discreet dating · Est. 2002
Where Desire Meets Discretion
Ashley Madison is the discreet dating app built on ethical discretion. Your desires, your rules, with privacy tools that stay in your control.
- 18+ only
- Free to download
- 40+ countries
- 4.2 App Store
91 million members since 2002. Sign-up is free. Optional packages are available inside the app.
Stealth ModeDiscreet iOS notifications
In the app
A look inside
The same preview screens from the App Store: the mark, the members, Discreet Match, and the privacy tools.
Models are used for illustrative purposes only. They are not the members you will meet.
Privacy
Discretion comes first
Privacy is the standard. You decide what is visible, who can reach you, and how a charge shows up.
Discreet Match
Match with people who want what you want, clearly and quietly. Pick the pace that fits.
- Curious
- Selective
- Flexible
- Adventurous
Photo privacy
Private photo masking and Hide My Profile keep your pictures and profile from being open to everyone.
Discreet billing
The charge on your statement is shown as AMDA, unless your bank or card company displays it differently.
Stealth Mode for iOS
Disguise the app icon and push alerts, mute notifications, and require Touch ID or Face ID when the app opens.
Get started
How Ashley Madison works
Free to download, then a private way to look, match and message.
Download free
Get the app and create a profile. Joining is free, and you need an account before you can browse members.
Set your terms
Use search filters and Interests & Desires tags. Discreet Match lines you up with people who value privacy the way you do.
Connect in private
Send messages, winks and private key requests. Share a photo only when you choose to.
Verify
A verified profile builds trust with other verified members.
Report
Flag a profile that looks suspicious or out of line.
Block
Remove anyone you do not want to see in the app.
Members
People who wanted privacy
Stories published by Ashley Madison. A dagger marks the name as it appears on the official site.
“I use Ashley Madison because it connects me with other people who have similar relationship expectations and are more upfront about what they want.”
“I’ve had some genuinely engaging conversations and built a few meaningful connections. Ashley Madison works for me because it feels secure.”
“Since I’ve been a member on Ashley Madison, I’ve never felt sexier or more desirable. For women thinking about it, they should join.”
Questions
Before you download
Is Ashley Madison a dating app?
Yes. It is a dating app for discreet connections, with 91 million members since 2002. It began as a married-dating site and now presents itself as a discretion-focused app for adults who want a private dating experience.
What shows up on my statement?
Charges are billed with a descriptor that does not say Ashley Madison. On a statement this is typically AMDA, unless your bank or card company overrides that name.
How can I pay more privately?
Options include PayPal, prepaid Visa or Mastercard, and, for U.S. and Canadian members, money orders or cashier’s checks. Other private methods depend on your region.
Can I look around without an account?
No. You create an account before you can explore members. Sign-up is free, discreet, and done in the app.
What does Stealth Mode change?
On iOS you can swap the icon, disguise push notifications, mute alerts, and ask for Touch ID or Face ID when the app starts. Personal information is not sold to a third party.
18+ · Ethical discretion
Date your way
Join a discreet, judgment-free community. The app is free to download, and you keep the privacy settings.